Often misunderstood due to their complexities, their mysterious aura never fails to bewilder onlookers and acquaintances.
These people are driven by an inner vision of the future possibilities generated by their dominant function – Introverted Intuition (Ni). To support this, they have their auxiliary function – Extraverted Feeling (Fe) – which orientates them toward people, tells them to keep harmony, and urges them to blend in with the surrounding environment.
This inner vision for the future involves people too. If you have an INFJ in your life that you are really close to then you can probably rest assured that you are included in their vision too. Unless of course, they secretly hate you because you crossed the line and broke one of their inner laws…
Anyway, this vision of theirs is completely internal and is kept hidden from all. Unless you can pierce the tough barrier that INFJ’s tend to always have up. But even if you pierce the barrier, it is highly unlikely that they will reveal all of themselves to you in one go. If you do manage to gain their trust then they will slowly reveal things about themselves, and then suddenly you’ll be connecting and relating about pretty much everything.
When it comes to making decisions, INFJs trust their intuition above all else. They do have support for this though, as their tertiary function – Introverted Thinking (Ti) allows them to apply logic to their decisions too. Thanks to this, people with the INFJ personality type are able to do many things, and their career possibilities are pretty broad. However, due to being a highly sensitive introvert, they generally tend to migrate toward more peaceful/introvert friendly careers. A career that allows them to utilize their Fe is highly sought after such as writing, music, counseling, teaching, and social work.
The previously mentioned combination of “Ni + Fe” also has a special effect that is unique to the INFJ personality type. It allows them to generate possibilities and insights about well, people! This is why the INFJ is often called the counselor. They have all of this great information to just dish out to people and they love to listen to real issues that people are going through. Small talk or mundane conversations are generally not of interest. What they really want to talk about are things with substance, or passion, something real.
An Empath is another word to describe these people. They are very sensitive to the energies and the emotions of those around them. They can feel what the people around them feel, and they can pick up on many subtle things that no one seems to notice. Again, this is explained by their Ni + Fe. As a result, if there is a lot of negative energy around a person with the INFJ personality type then it can directly affect them. It can even manifest into physical ailments if it gets really bad. On the other hand, positive energy is also mirrored. So they try to surround themselves with people who they can trust, and who bring positive vibes.
They can also be very moody. Like one second they are happy and smiling and then woah, now they’re depressed. What happened? Who knows…there are too many things that can affect an INFJ’s mood. It’s probably something that happened in the external environment however – someone is being too loud/negative, someone crossed one of their hidden boundaries, or maybe they are just tired.
The INFJ personality type is primarily introverted so they use up their energy when they are around people. Depending on the environment, their energy can near the empty mark pretty fast. When this happens then they will retreat into their head or just leave altogether. A big thing that can ruffle an INFJ’s feathers is when people don’t respect their need for privacy and alone time. They simply cannot be around people for too long, and if they need a few days to themselves then that should be respected and not questioned too much. Something to strongly avoid would be to make them feel bad about it.
At times, the image that these people project to the outside world is an extraverted one. Keep in mind that this is only when they are under the watch of other people. It is when they are around people that they switch on their Fe, almost like a mask. With this mask they can become outgoing, talkative, and can blend in quite well to many environments. They do much better in one on one conversations than they do in groups. They love being able to focus and relate to just one person, and a group just complicates things, plus it adds more things to worry about.
They are generally deeply concerned about humans on all levels. The state of humanity as a whole, the homeless guy down the street, their best friend from high school, and they cannot tolerate blatant injustice or unwarranted malice towards others.
Finally, INFJs also have Extraverted Sensing (Se) as their inferior function. They tend to dive into the wonders of Se whenever they are stressed and fed up with the world.This involves behaviors such as overeating, over indulgence in sensual pleasures, etc…pretty much anything that will allow them to relieve their stress.
An INFJ with well developed Se and proper self discipline will learn how to control those urges with time. Utilizing Fe is actually a great way for these people to express themselves and they generally feel a whole lot of relief when doing so.
Dominant – Introverted Intuition (Ni)
Auxiliary – Extraverted Feeling (Fe)
Tertiary – Introverted Thinking (Ti)
Inferior – Extraverted Sensing (Se)
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For any INFJ writers out in need of help, I highly recommend the book below. I first read it when I decided to start writing and I still reference to it to this day.
It’s really useful for INFPs, ENFJs, and ENFPs too!