The INFJ Personality Type


Often misunderstood due to their complexities, their mysterious aura never fails to bewilder onlookers and acquaintances.

These people are driven by an inner vision of the future possibilities generated by their dominant function – Introverted Intuition (Ni). To support this, they have their auxiliary function – Extraverted Feeling (Fe) – which orientates them toward people, tells them to keep harmony, and urges them to blend in with the surrounding environment.

This inner vision for the future involves people too. If you have an INFJ in your life that you are really close to then you can probably rest assured that you are included in their vision too. Unless of course, they secretly hate you because you crossed the line and broke one of their inner laws…

Anyway, this vision of theirs is completely internal and is kept hidden from all. Unless you can pierce the tough barrier that INFJ’s tend to always have up. But even if you pierce the barrier, it is highly unlikely that they will reveal all of themselves to you in one go. If you do manage to gain their trust then they will slowly reveal things about themselves, and then suddenly you’ll be connecting and relating about pretty much everything.

When it comes to making decisions, INFJs trust their intuition above all else. They do have support for this though, as their tertiary function – Introverted Thinking (Ti) allows them to apply logic to their decisions too. Thanks to this, people with the INFJ personality type are able to do many things, and their career possibilities are pretty broad. However, due to being a highly sensitive introvert, they generally tend to migrate toward more peaceful/introvert friendly careers. A career that allows them to utilize their Fe is highly sought after such as writing, music, counseling, teaching, and social work.

The previously mentioned combination of “Ni + Fe” also has a special effect that is unique to the INFJ personality type. It allows them to generate possibilities and insights about well, people! This is why the INFJ is often called the counselor. They have all of this great information to just dish out to people and they love to listen to real issues that people are going through. Small talk or mundane conversations are generally not of interest. What they really want to talk about are things with substance, or passion, something real.

An Empath is another word to describe these people. They are very sensitive to the energies and the emotions of those around them. They can feel what the people around them feel, and they can pick up on many subtle things that no one seems to notice. Again, this is explained by their Ni + Fe. As a result, if there is a lot of negative energy around a person with the INFJ personality type then it can directly affect them. It can even manifest into physical ailments if it gets really bad. On the other hand, positive energy is also mirrored. So they try to surround themselves with people who they can trust, and who bring positive vibes.

They can also be very moody. Like one second they are happy and smiling and then woah, now they’re depressed. What happened? Who knows…there are too many things that can affect an INFJ’s mood. It’s probably something that happened in the external environment however – someone is being too loud/negative, someone crossed one of their hidden boundaries, or maybe they are just tired.

The INFJ personality type is primarily introverted so they use up their energy when they are around people. Depending on the environment, their energy can near the empty mark pretty fast. When this happens then they will retreat into their head or just leave altogether. A big thing that can ruffle an INFJ’s feathers is when people don’t respect their need for privacy and alone time. They simply cannot be around people for too long, and if they need a few days to themselves then that should be respected and not questioned too much. Something to strongly avoid would be to make them feel bad about it.

At times, the image that these people project to the outside world is an extraverted one. Keep in mind that this is only when they are under the watch of other people. It is when they are around people that they switch on their Fe, almost like a mask. With this mask they can become outgoing, talkative, and can blend in quite well to many environments. They do much better in one on one conversations than they do in groups. They love being able to focus and relate to just one person, and a group just complicates things, plus it adds more things to worry about.

They are generally deeply concerned about humans on all levels. The state of humanity as a whole, the homeless guy down the street, their best friend from high school, and they cannot tolerate blatant injustice or unwarranted malice towards others.

Finally, INFJs also have Extraverted Sensing (Se) as their inferior function. They tend to dive into the wonders of Se whenever they are stressed and fed up with the world.This involves behaviors such as overeating, over indulgence in sensual pleasures, etc…pretty much anything that will allow them to relieve their stress.
An INFJ with well developed Se and proper self discipline will learn how to control those urges with time. Utilizing Fe is actually a great way for these people to express themselves and they generally feel a whole lot of relief when doing so.

 The functions

Dominant – Introverted Intuition (Ni)

Auxiliary – Extraverted Feeling (Fe)

Tertiary – Introverted Thinking (Ti)

Inferior – Extraverted Sensing (Se)

You may know your personality type but how about your numbers?

Or maybe you don’t even know your personality type? Find out here

For any INFJ writers out in need of help, I highly recommend the book below. I first read it when I decided to start writing and I still reference to it to this day.

It’s really useful for INFPs, ENFJs, and ENFPs too!


36 thoughts on “The INFJ Personality Type

  1. Hello from an INFP! Thanks for sharing all of these resources. I find the Myer’s Briggs both incredibly useful and incredibly hard to remember. (I have to retake the test every time.) So glad it helped you understand and accept your unique self. Have you checked out the Enneagram? I just learned about it recently and have been studying it. It’s completely esoteric and complicated and frighteningly insightful at the same time. It seems like something that might appeal to you.

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  2. Interesting . . . empaths are bounced around hard by the world, some never get the balance or are sucked dry by certain people in it. It is hard to build up the defense mechanisms. I like the Ni and the Fe lettering. It makes me think of Nitrogen and Iron. The iron wouldn’t rust in a Nitrogen atmosphere. If you could hold the self in a noble gas, you could technically become a catalyst without flaming out in the oxygen. I’ll mull this over a bit. Thanks!

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      1. Yes. Finding that out for me has allowed me to really accept myself as an individual. I used to test 50/50 Info but as I get older (bka. after a few door slams 🙃), it’s clear just how deep that label fits.

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      2. I see I see. I feel you on the door slams lol, I actually did a few recently that I had been putting off for so long, like for real idk what I was thinking waiting so long. Good thing I did though because it allowed me to focus
        on myself more, and this blog.

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  3. as an INFP and increasingly a writer, sometimes song writer, sometimes sketch artist, I find my call in touching people, one by one with the light of God’s love for them, increasing exposing who they deeply are. Thanks for the ping on my journal entry

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  4. Despite I took the Myers-Briggs test on several occasions, at college, and several work places, never new my type, I guess because they do not share with you the results.

    Not until 20 or so years ago reading about Jung find out about the test, and finally after years of frustration and failures, in relationships, finally figure out my problems derived of not knowing my INFJ personality type, and how to take precautionary steps, to manage my life more effectively, and avoid situations where the INFJ runs in to problems.
    Like living with roommates, marrying, or dating an extrovert, be exposed to crowds of people for a long period of time, and not have a secluded, silent space all to himself, where he can unwind and recharge batteries,
    I seldom visit family, live far away from everybody, but when I visit, I arrive late during the first day, stay for one day, to say hello to everybody, and next day, as early as possible say goodbye and get the hell out of there!.
    Childhood was an ordeal with family members being extroverts, and couldn’t wait long enough to be an adult to leave, and once gone, only returned for sporadic visits.
    We love the written word, and books are my constant companions, and for the sake of brevity, ( we can go forever on writing) will leave you, nice work you are doing here, 🙂

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    1. I vibe with pretty much everything you said. I know right, the relief from figuring this all out was insane, and the benefit from us learning more about ourselves is enormous. Possibly more than any other type. I feel you on the writing forever thing, everything that comes out might not make sense but we sure can keep going! haha

      Thank you for taking the time to comment XD

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  5. Hi Aphrolina,

    I absolutely get the helpfulness of the MB instrument for sorting out our quirks and helping us feel less odd. I found out much later than you did that I am an INFP (you’ll get this immediately, I’m sure). One of the books described this as the crusader monk – a person who enjoys bursts of energy they dedicate to a project or form of output then must return to the solitude of the monastery (or convent or mountaintop). It made all the sense in the world as I had exhibited both types of behavior, including odd, private reflections that jail wouldn’t be so bad because you could spend all of your time reading (except that is not how jail is and I’ve never been, but maybe you get that my brain was throwing this thought up and I understood it).

    Anyway, keep on discovering! It’s a lifetime’s worth of effort and if you’re lucky you’ll never figure it out completely. That’s part of the fun of it. When you stop asking yourself questions is when the dangers appear.

    Best, MSOC

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    1. Right, just making this one discovery can completely change lives depending on the person. I enjoyed your INFP story too, a crusader monk huh? I like that description a lot. Thank you for commenting and sharing that bit of knowledge with me 🙂

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