The Highly Sensitive Person: How to Cope in the Busy World of Today

Human beings are empathetic creatures by nature, we can all to at least some degree understand what another person is going through, even if it’s just a little bit. Some people can go as far as feeling what the other person feels. The highly sensitive individual is a special case. This is when the ability to feel becomes so intense that it can potentially become too much to handle.

A few things that can potentially be harmful for Highly Sensitive Individuals:

  • Too many sudden changes in the physical environment
  • Too much negative energy from the surrounding people
  • Loud noises, bright lights, and crowded places with many people

If the environment is simply too much for a highly sensitive person to handle then it can even manifest into physical ailments and sicknesses.

So what can these people do to cope with such a trait?

Being a highly sensitive individual in the world of today is not an easy task… but it is more than possible to cope. It does not need to be seen in a negative light either. The key is simply to understand yourself and your limits.

For adults it is a lot easier because you have freedom to live how you choose. If you don’t want to work in a busy environment filled with tons of people talking at the top of their lungs every second of the day then you don’t have to.

For children however, it is a whole different story because children cannot just do whatever they want. Highly sensitive children are at the mercy of their parent/guardian. They have to go to school and they are expected to deal with the same conditions that everyone else deals with. And they will not receive special treatment unless they have a disability that the school finds legitimate.

Public school for highly sensitive children can potentially be hell depending on the environment. These children cannot choose when they feel, they unconsciously absorb the emotions of the people around them, all the time. Their energy levels and their ability to focus can severely plummet if the environment does not suit the child. This is why public school can severely hamper a child’s ability to focus and succeed academically. A peaceful and organized environment is best suited for these individuals.

A few things that can happen when a Highly Sensitive Person feels overwhelmed:

  • Severe energy depletion
  • Anxiety and confusion
  • Inability to focus and brain fog

It is not easy being a highly sensitive person, child or adult, but I really feel for children who may have no idea what is going on inside of them. Even worse if they think that there something is wrong with themselves. I believe that homeschooling is a more than viable option for children who suffer in the public school setting. If you have a child who you suspect to be highly sensitive then I would highly recommend considering the option.


Extra comments:

I myself am a highly sensitive person with the INFJ personality type and still have issues regarding negative/crowded environments. As a child it 10 times worse because I had no idea what was going on and neither did my parents. It didn’t get very much easier as I got older either. In fact I think it was the worst in high school where the environment I was in was much too rowdy and loud for me to function. And I had no choice but to deal with it and tough it through.

I think this is why I feel so passionate about the subject. I know for sure if someday my child were to show signs of being highly sensitive then I would make sure that my child feels comfortable. If my child is complaining about school and is not performing well then I will consider home school or private school in a heartbeat.

I truly wonder what it would have been like if I had been given the option to be home schooled. I could have studied in a peaceful environment without having to worry all the time. I may have actually enjoyed school if I wasn’t forced to be around such negative/loud influences all the time when I was trying to learn. I mean, I guess I learned some valuable lessons by toughing it out through public school… but still, I feel like it shouldn’t have been as terrible as it was.

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8 thoughts on “The Highly Sensitive Person: How to Cope in the Busy World of Today

  1. Oh so relatable! Comforting as always to know I’m not alone out there, thank you for this!
    I just wanted to stop by to let you know that I nominated you for the Versatile Blogger Award, your content is great and I always enjoy reading. Thank you for your lovely posts! 🙂

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  2. Its crazy that you mention homeschool as being a great alternative. I didn’t quite realize it until years later, but I definitely suffer from a lot of these symptoms. Because I was homeschooled, I didn’t realize I was “weird” or “unusual” until my very late high school and college years.

    I wouldn’t say I was sheltered in a bad way. I simply learned to create an environment I enjoyed. My loud younger siblings took care of preparing me for the “real world.” You hit the nail on the head with “negative energy from the surrounding people” and “loud noises and bright lights.” A public school environment would have been beyond torturous for me.

    I went to college at a small liberal arts school with classes between 3-20. I honestly had no trouble in college and haven’t had any “problems” in the real world even though I was homeschooled K-12. The real world is simply nothing like a public school environment.

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  3. It is not necessarily easier as an adult because workplaces vary and some are really horrible places. But, I agree it can be torturous to be a highly sensitive kid trapped with 20-30 kids in a class all day. For adults, if they know they are sensitive at least they have a better shot at preparing for the best job for them in a likely calmer environment and at work making their work space & work life as optimal as possible!

    Your post can help educate people because this wasn’t a well-known issue when I was growing up!

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    1. Yes I agree, child or adult, it is not easy. I just think that freedom plays a huge role in how easy it is for the individual to cope. And adults tend to have a lot more freedom than children to choose how they want to live. Yes, adults may have to work in environments that are suboptimal for them at times, but if it really gets that bad then you don’t have to keep working there, no one is forcing you. Kids can’t just quit school and that lack of freedom is why I think it is harder on them.

      Thank you for your comment and view point!

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