Spirituality shouldn’t restrict you, only free you – my thoughts on the spiritual world.

As I’ve been coming to terms with my own truth about the spiritual world, the world of the mysterious and divine, I’ve realized that spirituality is meant to free you, not restrict you. If your spiritual beliefs place fear in your heart then I think there is something wrong. There should be no fear and there should be no judgement when it comes to spirituality.

Spirituality is about love and oneness. It’s about bringing humanity together, not separating or discriminating. It’s about transcending the physical realm where all we see are the differences between one another, into the spiritual realm where we are all one. We are all connected to the same source.

Spirituality transcends race, gender, and physical appearance. Those who are truly in touch with their spiritual side do not discriminate based on such differences. It’s about realizing that we are all just spirits. We are all just spirits living inside of these human bodies. And because of this, discrimination based on our physical appearance is incredibly meaningless.

I believe that regardless of what another person’s spiritual beliefs are there should be no judgement. For that only further separates humanity. We should all be looking toward one another with love, positivity, and acceptance.

 

 

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Dealing with Narcissists as an Empath

Empath vs Narcissist 

—the never ending battle

Every empath is going to encounter a narcissist in their lifetime, there is really no avoiding it. This is because an empath is exactly the type of person they love to prey on the most. Sadly, empaths who lack knowledge/experience quite easily fall victim. I can attest because I have fallen victim to these people many times. 5 times to be exact. 2 of those times I was actually afraid my life was in danger. Thank god I have my intuition though because I was able to sense, and avert myself from the danger moments before anything serious happened. Not going to go too far into detail but I can say for sure that I have learned my lesson. A lot of this happened quite recently too and I am still recovering from the trauma.

Each time, I was aware of their toxic behavior (for the most part) but I would associate with them anyway. I thought that maybe deep down inside they weren’t that bad after all. And I thought that maybe I could even change their behavior by showing them kindness and accepting them wholeheartedly. This is where my lack of knowledge/experience really hurt me. Little did I know that it is impossible to heal a narcissist. I didn’t even know what a narcissist was until after my traumatic experiences.

These narcissists constantly drained my energy, manipulated me in ways that I was completely blind to, and prevented me from reaching my full potential. My self-esteem was also extremely low in the past and I’m certain they could sense this. This was likely the biggest reason why I was targeted so much by these people. Hopefully this article will help others avoid falling into the same trap I did…5 times.

The Empath vs Narcissist Dynamics

The empath will view the narcissist with loving eyes, despite their obvious issues. They will purposely ignore their toxic behavior and sneaky games of manipulation, choosing to put on rose-colored spectacles instead. They will view the narcissist as someone they can heal, because that’s what empaths do, they heal people. But no…not in this case…

It is impossible to heal a narcissist. So please, don’t even waste your time.

The empath will provide the narcissist with their undivided attention, unconditional love, and understanding; all of which the narcissist lacked as a child. The narcissist will not be satisfied with just that, no no no, not enough. These narcissists want to take everything you have, and more. Their goal is to make you feel like you need them, but the reality of the situation is that they need you more than anything. In fact, they would be miserable without all the attention you give them.

Narcissists feel amazing when they are around empaths. I have personally been told this by narcissists themselves. They would say things like, ”I don’t know why I feel so good when I’m around you. I feel like I get an energy boost or something.” But I on the other hand would constantly feel drained and tired. If you notice this imbalance within the relationship then be careful. I assumed I was tired all the time because I was an introvert but the truth was far deeper than that. Narcissists are energy vampires and they will suck your energy up real fast if you aren’t careful.

The narcissist will fake their empathy and kindness toward you. They do this because they want to gain your trust. They will make it seem like they are genuinely interested in you and your problems but half the time they aren’t even listening. At the end of the day it is all about them and what they can get from you.

A narcissist is not capable of empathy. This is why they are narcissists.

They cannot fully hide their true colors, nor do they seek to do so. They will intentionally put you down to make themselves feel better but they will do so using sneaky word play and manipulation. If you call them out on this then they will tell you that you are just imagining things or that you are too insecure. The truth is that they are the ones who are insecure, but they will never admit this. The narcissist just wants to make your self-esteem as low as possible so they feel like they are in control. They want to make you dependent on them, whether you guys are in an actual relationship, or simply a friendship.

They will continue to play their little games of manipulation and then cover it up with kindness. The games they play will make you want to doubt your intuition, time and time again. The empath needs to cut ties from the narcissist before they truly do become dependent on them. However, this can be extremely tough depending on the length of the relationship.

Remember, the only way out of this situation is to cut ties and stand up for yourself. The longer you are around a narcissist the worse it is going to become.

Tips for Empaths when dealing with Narcissists

  • Realize your own self-worth.  You should never let another person tell you what you are worth. Look within.
  • Trust your intuition! Your intuition is there exactly for this type of situation. It can save you from a lot of hurt and grief in the future.
  • Surround yourself with quality/authentic people. People who make you feel good and help you grow.  You do not have to deal with unbalanced relationships in your life.
  • Be careful of staying around a narcissist for too long because you may end up developing narcissistic qualities yourself.
  • Stand up for yourself. Do not procrastinate and prolong the situation. Speak up and let your voice be heard!
  • Again, you cannot heal a narcissist so please don’t waste your time.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

6 Signs Signifying The Dark Night of the Soul: This is Not Your Average Case of Depression

As seekers of spiritual knowledge, many of us will go through a period in our lives called the ”Dark Night of the Soul.”

If you are experiencing the Dark Night of the Soul as you read this article, keep in mind that this is all for a purpose. It is all for the sake of reaching the next level in your spiritual journey.

The Dark Night of the Soul is not your average case of depression. It is an extreme low point in our lives where we suffer mentally, spiritually, and physical. During the experience you will feel a sense of hopelessness and despair as you seem to lose all purpose in living. Your perception of reality will be severely distorted, and the way you view life will be abnormally negative.

As painful as the experience may be, you should think of the Dark Night of the Soul as a beautiful experience. A sacred ritual with the purpose of taking you to the next level in your spiritual journey.

The Dark Night of the Soul very often signifies the beginning stages of a spiritual awakening.


6 Signs Signifying the Dark Night of the Soul:

1) Spiritual depression – you begin to doubt everything you thought you knew about your spiritual beliefs. For very spiritual people this will be the toughest part of the experience. The world will appear as if it is one big lie. You may doubt your reason for existing and lose all meaning in your life.

2) Extremely stressful situations –  everything you thought couldn’t go wrong…goes wrong. For example, you may go through severe financial hardship – being unable to pay your bills, getting laid off from your job, an eviction notice from your landlord comes out of no where. Basically, the universe just bombards you with the most stressful life situations all at once.

3) Rapid change in your life – things begin to change in your life at such a dramatic pace that it is just overwhelming. You feel like you cannot keep up and are being swept away by the pace of the world.

4) You feel lost and alone – you feel as if no one can understand what you’re going through. And if no one around you shares your spiritual beliefs then you will feel more alone than ever.

5) Psychically and mentally drained – you experience feeling lethargic, sleeping all the time, getting sick too easily. You may feel a severe lack of energy and have trouble performing the basic duties that are necessary to live your life.

6) Depression – you don’t find much joy in the things that used to give you pleasure in the past. You have trouble getting out of bed, socializing with friends, etc. Like I mentioned before, this is not your average case of depression. However, you will experience normal depression symptoms on top of everything else.


My advice to you if you are going through the Dark Night of the Soul as we speak…just surrender to it all. Realize what you’re going through and accept it. Accept the fact that this period in your life is all for a reason. It is all necessary, and you WILL get past this.

The universe is not making you suffer so much without a reason. This is just a step in the awakening process. It is all for the sake of killing your old self so that you can emerge a new man. As cliche as it sounds, “Only by seeing the dark, will you be able to see the light.”

As you finally come out of the Dark Night you will feel a sense of relief that is almost laughable. Your perception of the world will be clearer than ever. Soon enough you will be able to look back at this experience and laugh at the whole thing.

Be grateful that you went through such a process. By experiencing such a dark period in your life now, the hardship you experience in the future will be nothing compared to this.

 

 

 

11 Signs You Are Going Through A Spiritual Awakening

Going through a spiritual awakening can be quite the frightening experience. You may feel like your whole world has been flipped upside down, complete 360 double back flip with a twist. You may even feel like you are going insane.

Keep in mind that you are going to be okay, don’t freak out!

There are many others who live in the exact same world as you that are going through the exact same thing.

So just take a deep breath, relax, and stay positive. The unpleasant symptoms are only temporary. You will be back to your normal self in no time! Well…maybe not your normal self…even better than that, your true self.

You may need to take time away from the world when you are going through the awakening process. It can be hard to function like usual and alone time may be just the remedy you need to get back up to speed.

Here are 11 signs that you might be going through a spiritual awakening

Note: not everyone goes through every single one of these symptoms. However, generally you will go through these 11 signs as you begin to awaken into your true self.

  1. Synchronicity – You start to experience synchronicity – seeing repeating numbers such as 1111, 222, 333 on the norm. This could be anywhere – on your phone, receipts, clocks, etc.
  2. Change in Sleep Patterns – You experience waking up in the middle of the night on a regular basis. This could be at odd times such as 3:33am or 4:44am. You may also need more, or less sleep than usual to feel like your usual self.
  3. Hypersensitivity – You become unable to tolerate things like loud noises and strong smells. Emotionally, you may be a bit unstable. You are likely going to be on a emotional roller coaster. If you are an empath then you will feel the emotions of those around you more intensely.
  4. Change in Perception – Your perception of the world has changed dramatically and you begin seeing the world without a filter. Both the good and bad aspects of the world will become clearer as you gain more and more clarity.
  5. Change in Diet – The food you were eating prior to all of this just doesn’t do it for you anymore. The jack-in-the box you loved so much in the past starts to repulse you. You get stomach aches when you eat too much fatty/processed foods. You start craving healthier foods. Drugs give you a headache, like tobacco or caffeine.
  6. Feeling Good, Feeling Great! – You feel good for a reason you can’t exactly pinpoint. You feel an almost euphoric sensation throughout your entire being. You feel more peaceful and zen than you ever have before.
  7. Dark Night of the Soul – During the very beginning of your spiritual awakening process you may experience an extreme low. This will likely be just about the worst you have ever felt in your life. Everything that you thought couldn’t go wrong…goes wrong. However, keep in mind that this is only temporary.
  8. Intolerance  – You become intolerant towards superficiality and shallow conversations. People who are overly materialistic start to be a major turn off.
  9. Searching For a Purpose – Your curiosity and thirst for knowledge has heightened. You feel like you were meant to do something important with your life. You have a strong sense of urgency to find your true purpose in life.
  10. Freedom Has Arrived! –  You feel like your shackles have finally been torn off and you are free. Your whole body will feel a whole lot lighter.
  11. Seeking Meaning In Your Life – Suddenly, coming home from work and watching TV for 5 hours doesn’t seem so interesting any more. You crave deep conversations and need some real substance in your life.

Again, the negative symptoms are only temporary and everything is going to be okay. Eventually you will feel pure bliss as you become comfortable with yourself and start to accept what is happening to you.


Have you gone through the awakening process? 

Feel free to leave a comment below and share your experience 🙂