The Highly Sensitive Person: How to Cope in the Busy World of Today

Human beings are empathetic creatures by nature, we can all to at least some degree understand what another person is going through, even if it’s just a little bit. Some people can go as far as feeling what the other person feels. The highly sensitive individual is a special case. This is when the ability to feel becomes so intense that it can potentially become too much to handle.

A few things that can potentially be harmful for Highly Sensitive Individuals:

  • Too many sudden changes in the physical environment
  • Too much negative energy from the surrounding people
  • Loud noises, bright lights, and crowded places with many people

If the environment is simply too much for a highly sensitive person to handle then it can even manifest into physical ailments and sicknesses.

So what can these people do to cope with such a trait?

Being a highly sensitive individual in the world of today is not an easy task… but it is more than possible to cope. It does not need to be seen in a negative light either. The key is simply to understand yourself and your limits.

For adults it is a lot easier because you have freedom to live how you choose. If you don’t want to work in a busy environment filled with tons of people talking at the top of their lungs every second of the day then you don’t have to.

For children however, it is a whole different story because children cannot just do whatever they want. Highly sensitive children are at the mercy of their parent/guardian. They have to go to school and they are expected to deal with the same conditions that everyone else deals with. And they will not receive special treatment unless they have a disability that the school finds legitimate.

Public school for highly sensitive children can potentially be hell depending on the environment. These children cannot choose when they feel, they unconsciously absorb the emotions of the people around them, all the time. Their energy levels and their ability to focus can severely plummet if the environment does not suit the child. This is why public school can severely hamper a child’s ability to focus and succeed academically. A peaceful and organized environment is best suited for these individuals.

A few things that can happen when a Highly Sensitive Person feels overwhelmed:

  • Severe energy depletion
  • Anxiety and confusion
  • Inability to focus and brain fog

It is not easy being a highly sensitive person, child or adult, but I really feel for children who may have no idea what is going on inside of them. Even worse if they think that there something is wrong with themselves. I believe that homeschooling is a more than viable option for children who suffer in the public school setting. If you have a child who you suspect to be highly sensitive then I would highly recommend considering the option.


Extra comments:

I myself am a highly sensitive person with the INFJ personality type and still have issues regarding negative/crowded environments. As a child it 10 times worse because I had no idea what was going on and neither did my parents. It didn’t get very much easier as I got older either. In fact I think it was the worst in high school where the environment I was in was much too rowdy and loud for me to function. And I had no choice but to deal with it and tough it through.

I think this is why I feel so passionate about the subject. I know for sure if someday my child were to show signs of being highly sensitive then I would make sure that my child feels comfortable. If my child is complaining about school and is not performing well then I will consider home school or private school in a heartbeat.

I truly wonder what it would have been like if I had been given the option to be home schooled. I could have studied in a peaceful environment without having to worry all the time. I may have actually enjoyed school if I wasn’t forced to be around such negative/loud influences all the time when I was trying to learn. I mean, I guess I learned some valuable lessons by toughing it out through public school… but still, I feel like it shouldn’t have been as terrible as it was.

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The INTP Personality Type

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Information is their fuel, and their primary mode of living is in their head. They seek to explain everything logically and work tirelessly when they find something that actually interests them.

These people seem to day dream like nobody’s business. Their mind just takes them places and they can seem aloof at times in their appearance as a result.

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Albert Einstein INTP (source: google images)

There is a reason why they are always in their head and it’s because they are always thinking. Their dominant function is Introverted Thinking(Ti) so their minds are always working to prove, disprove, or create new theories about things. They believe that it is possible to explain everything logically. An INTP lives in a world of logic, and feelings seem to be the least important part of that world. Not that they are cold hearted people who are unable to love, it’s just that they prefer to keep feelings and logic separate. The best way to piss off an INTP is to base all of your decisions off solely feelings or intuition, for that does not compute in the brain of an INTP. Be prepared for a long and thorough debate if you insist on arguing an illogical point to an INTP.

INTPs are not solely Ti however, they have intuition to support them too. This is what makes the INTP a huge force to be reckoned with on an intellectual level. Their auxiliary function: Extraverted Intuition (Ne) allows them to gain a deeper insight than with just thinking alone. It is also the main source of their curiosity and gives them the ability to deal with mental problems in a swift manner. Their intuition allows them to see the possibilities before they even try to prove it with logic. It gives them a glimpse into the future per se.

Their tertiary function is Introverted Sensing(Si). It’s greatest benefit is likely the ability to remember the past in great detail. At least, past experiences that actually meant something to them. Things that actually mean something to them are the only thing they will put energy towards. School can be a hit or miss for these people. Schooling as a child is often stressful for INTPs. However, should an INTP as an adult choose to invest their time into higher education and study a subject that they are actually passionate about then they will likely attract success that is far beyond the norm. It not surprising to hear about INTPs who do terrible in school as a child and then grow up and wow the world with their intellectual prowess – *cough* Einstein *cough*.

INTPs love to solidify their theories and ideas by bouncing them off of other people first. This may confuse people at first because their theories are often incomplete at the time. They have an intense desire to understand and come to a conclusion about things. They are generally drawn to anything that they cannot fully understand, even things that are of the divine nature could catch the attention of an INTP. In fact, it is things like this that often drive them the most. Purely for the sake of satisfaction they will work tirelessly to make sense of and ultimately prove or disprove whatever they set their sights on. They will not be content until it makes sense in their head (the world of logic), plain and simple.

Day to day activities, routines, and things that don’t stimulate their mind are a struggle for these people. They are generally quiet and reserved, especially when meeting new people. With Extraverted Feeling (Fe) being their inferior function, social interaction can also be a real struggle. But people aren’t really their thing anyway so whatever. They prefer a quiet place where they can be alone so their mind can wander freely. Freedom is a necessity for these people. Rigid rules, mundane schedules and boundaries only hinder their mental and creative abilities. They prefer to work in bursts of inspiration on whatever catches their eye. They may research one subject for a few days and then get bored and move on to the next without a second thought.

Dominant function: Introverted Thinking (Ti)

Auxiliary function: Extraverted Intuition (Ne)

Tertiary function: Introverted Sensing (Si)

Inferior function: Extraverted Feeling (Fe)


My personal experience:

So there was this girl that I met in the smash community (Competitive Super Smash Brothers). I was in Las Vegas at the time and I had just won one of their local tournaments. She walked up to me afterward and asked me to play, I refused, forgot the reason why, but we ended up adding each other on Facebook afterward.

After that day she started messaging me all day everyday. It startled me. I didn’t really understand what was going on at the time, was she a fan of mine? Did she have a crush on me? Seriously, any INFJ who received that much attention from someone of the opposite sex would automatically assume they are in love with them. I would reply at first but then I started ignoring her. I wouldn’t read her messages for days, but she continued to send them. I didn’t understand, what did she want? A lot of her messages were not even directed toward me either it seemed. It was like she just needed to get her thoughts out of her mind, yep, I became her sound board before I knew it.

At some point I started to reply to her because she was seriously relentless in her messages. I eventually got to the bottom of things turns she did not have crush on me, she just wanted to learn that badly. She wanted me to teach her and she wanted to learn everything I knew about the game. She just wanted me for my information, ha. But I couldn’t refuse. If she was really that passionate about the game then I figured why not, maybe I can learn something too.

So I told her everything I knew and I played with her regularly. She had a lot of potential too, it wasn’t just me who saw it. I had a tough time convincing her that she was actually good at the game though. She suffered from extreme self doubt. She was very good at learning and coming up with new strategies and attack patterns but when it came to actually applying what she learned in actual combat she doubted herself too much. When she lost it was the most depressing thing ever. It got to the point where I didn’t even want to play her anymore because she would just shit talk her self every time she lost. I think she valued learning more about the game than she loved actually playing it. She was still very good though.

During the time frame that all of this happened was actually when I discovered I was an INFJ. I told her how much it changed my life and how it made me feel. Her response was a bit cold for how much emotion I put into the message, but she acknowledged it. After that I researched all of the types, introduced her to MBTI and she ended up accepting that she was an INTP relatively easily after I pointed out all of the quirks in her personality.


There are numerous books for INTPs on amazon but this one seemed to stand out to me. Plus, the reviews look really good. I however have not read this book personally.

Carl Jung

“My studies in astrology are fascinating…I have come to the firm conclusion that at the moment of birth an individual takes on the characteristic state of the Universe for that moment in time.” -Carl Jung

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The next book I want to read is ‘The RED BOOK’ by Carl Jung. I mean, just the appearance and the title of the book is alluring. So mysterious! And the content is likely invaluable too, especially for me at the moment I feel.

The book is about the experiences that Jung had in 1913 where he had a psychotic break down but emerged from it feeling transformed, a new man, he was about 38 at the time. Apparently he had visions where he saw the world in catastrophe and ruin. He documented what he saw in his visions and what was going on in his psyche at the time. The book lets you dive into the mind of the man and experience it with him personally. The book is massive too, I would honestly love to own the actual book one day.

Edit: I found an actual picture! Damn that’s kinda epic, now I have to get it someday.. just to say I did it.

The red book
credit: google images

The ENTP Personality Type

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ENTPs are idea people with a deep understanding of the external world. Their intuitive abilities allow them to see the world as an oyster filled with possibilities just waiting to be explored.

When an ENTP finds something that lights the fire in their chest they truly give it their all – thanks to their dominant function: Extraverted Intuition(Ne). But it has to be something that they enjoy or they will lose interest fast.  They may switch from one hobby to the next, thoroughly enjoying each one, or it could be a series of projects that each individually satisfy them in different ways. In fact, this is often what their entire life looks like, a series of projects. However, should an ENTP ever be compelled stick to one thing they are truly passionate about, the results are likely to be spectacular.

Routine bores them, and the school setting may restrict or possibly even alienate them. When an ENTP isn’t being challenged, they get bored and slack off. Even if they consider the subject easy. If it can’t stimulate their mind then they will likely just rush through it to get it over with. An ENTP’s pursuit for passion and inspiration in their work should not be blocked or restricted by any means. They will feel trapped, imprisoned, and discontent with life.

These people love a good debate and their conversational prowess is something to admire. They are much more interested in learning from, and absorbing information than they are in making decisions (which is not one of their strong points).

Their auxiliary function: Introverted Thinking (Ti) allows them to think critically and develop strategies. They are often called the ‘inventors’ because of their natural creativity, their ability to think outside of the box seeing a variety of possibilities, and their ability to think logically and objectively. Improvising and coming up with a quick solution is one of their greatest assets, and getting what they want from people is one of their specialties.

They can be very convincing when they utilize their Extraverted Feeling (Fe) to butter up the people around them. If used this way then the ENTP can be manipulative and difficult to trust at times. With proper development of their Fe this usually nothing to worry about and the ENTP can become great at accommodating the needs of others, as well as keeping harmony within their social circle.

ENTPs also know how to relax. Their outer personality can appear child like at times, and they often have trouble with discipline. When something really catches their eye then they can be very energetic about exploring it. However, they can switch up and become an intellectual thinker that commands respect from those around them in a heart beat. They may still retain their child like joy, but they often enjoy pondering deep and philosophical issues. They can come off as insensitive at times due to their strong desire for things to make sense logically. More sensitive types should be wary when trying to challenge one of these people to a debate.

Dominant function: Extraverted Intuition (Ne)

Auxiliary function: Introverted Thinking (Ti)

Tertiary function: Extraverted Feeling (Fe)

Inferior function: Introverted Sensing (Si)


Extra comments:

I lived with an ENTP/Sagittarius friend of mine for about 2 months. We both play competitive smash brothers – this dude @ZenyouX, his Mario is pretty amazing I can’t even lie.

We definitely had our differences when it came to living together, mostly dealing with space and alone time. Besides that, I would say the experience was quite pleasant, no huge arguments or fights or anything.

He is still a really good friend of mine too. He is one of the very few people who I can actually talk to about all of this stuff. He came over to my apartment just a few days ago and we were chatting it up, discussing zodiac signs and INFJs and ENTPs and ESTPs and the universe and !!….anyway, when I was first learning about Depth Psychology/MBTI, he was the one who I would bounce my thoughts and ideas off of. I think the greatest connection we shared was our disinterest in common and mundane conversations. We both really enjoyed talking about things on a much deeper level such as the universe or psychological issues or religion. He said he enjoys the fact that I ask him deep questions that make him think. I personally enjoy the fact that he can answer those deep questions honestly, and it gives me a new perspective that can further my understanding on certain issues.

The ENTP + INFJ combo can be really amazing in my opinion. But only if boundaries are kept, and mutually understanding is applied.


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The INFJ Personality Type

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Often misunderstood due to their complexities, their mysterious aura never fails to bewilder onlookers and acquaintances.

These people are driven by an inner vision of the future possibilities generated by their dominant function – Introverted Intuition (Ni). To support this, they have their auxiliary function – Extraverted Feeling (Fe) – which orientates them toward people, tells them to keep harmony, and urges them to blend in with the surrounding environment.

This inner vision for the future involves people too. If you have an INFJ in your life that you are really close to then you can probably rest assured that you are included in their vision too. Unless of course, they secretly hate you because you crossed the line and broke one of their inner laws…

Anyway, this vision of theirs is completely internal and is kept hidden from all. Unless you can pierce the tough barrier that INFJ’s tend to always have up. But even if you pierce the barrier, it is highly unlikely that they will reveal all of themselves to you in one go. If you do manage to gain their trust then they will slowly reveal things about themselves, and then suddenly you’ll be connecting and relating about pretty much everything.

When it comes to making decisions, INFJs trust their intuition above all else. They do have support for this though, as their tertiary function – Introverted Thinking (Ti) allows them to apply logic to their decisions too. Thanks to this, people with the INFJ personality type are able to do many things, and their career possibilities are pretty broad. However, due to being a highly sensitive introvert, they generally tend to migrate toward more peaceful/introvert friendly careers. A career that allows them to utilize their Fe is highly sought after such as writing, music, counseling, teaching, and social work.

The previously mentioned combination of “Ni + Fe” also has a special effect that is unique to the INFJ personality type. It allows them to generate possibilities and insights about well, people! This is why the INFJ is often called the counselor. They have all of this great information to just dish out to people and they love to listen to real issues that people are going through. Small talk or mundane conversations are generally are not of interest. What they really want to talk about are things with substance, or passion, something real.

An Empath is another word to describe these people. They are very sensitive to the energies and the emotions of those around them. They can feel what the people around them feel, and they can pick up on many subtle things that no one seems to notice. Again, this is explained by their Ni + Fe. As a result, if there is a lot of negative energy around a person with the INFJ personality type then it can directly affect them. It can even manifest into physical ailments if it gets really bad. On the other hand, positive energy is also mirrored. So they try to surround themselves with people who they can trust, and who bring positive vibes.

They can also be very moody. Like one second they are happy and smiling and then woah, now they’re depressed. What happened? Who knows…there are too many things that can affect an INFJ’s mood. It’s probably something that happened in the external environment however – someone is being too loud/negative, someone crossed one of their hidden boundaries, or maybe they are just tired.

The INFJ personality type is primarily introverted so they use up their energy when they are around people. Depending on the environment, their energy can near the empty mark pretty fast. When this happens then they will retreat into their head or just leave altogether. A big thing that can ruffle an INFJ’s feathers is when people don’t respect their need for privacy and alone time. They simply cannot be around people for too long, and if they need a few days to themselves then that should be respected and not questioned too much. Something to strongly avoid would be to make them feel bad about it.

At times, the image that these people project to the outside world is an extraverted one. Keep in mind that this is only when they are under the watch of other people. It is when they are around people that they switch on their Fe, almost like a mask. With this mask they can become outgoing, talkative, and can blend in quite well to many environments. They do much better in one on one conversations than they do in groups. They love being able to focus and relate to just one person, and a group just complicates things, plus it adds more things to worry about.

They are generally deeply concerned about humans on all levels. The state of humanity as a whole, the homeless guy down the street, their best friend from high school, and they cannot tolerate blatant injustice or unwarranted malice towards others.

Finally, INFJs also have Extraverted Sensing (Se) as their inferior function. They tend to dive into the wonders of Se whenever they are stressed and fed up with the world.This involves behaviors such as overeating, over indulgence in sensual pleasures, etc…pretty much anything that will allow them to relieve their stress.
An INFJ with well developed Se and proper self discipline will learn how to control those urges with time. Utilizing Fe is actually a great way for these people to express themselves and they generally feel a whole lot of relief when doing so.

 The functions

Dominant – Introverted Intuition (Ni)

Auxiliary – Extraverted Feeling (Fe)

Tertiary – Introverted Thinking (Ti)

Inferior – Extraverted Sensing (Se)

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