Dealing with Narcissists as an Empath

Empath vs Narcissist 

—the never ending battle

Every empath is going to encounter a narcissist in their lifetime, there is really no avoiding it. This is because an empath is exactly the type of person they love to prey on the most. Sadly, empaths who lack knowledge/experience quite easily fall victim. I can attest because I have fallen victim to these people many times. 5 times to be exact. 2 of those times I was actually afraid my life was in danger. Thank god I have my intuition though because I was able to sense, and avert myself from the danger moments before anything serious happened. Not going to go too far into detail but I can say for sure that I have learned my lesson. A lot of this happened quite recently too and I am still recovering from the trauma.

Each time, I was aware of their toxic behavior (for the most part) but I would associate with them anyway. I thought that maybe deep down inside they weren’t that bad after all. And I thought that maybe I could even change their behavior by showing them kindness and accepting them wholeheartedly. This is where my lack of knowledge/experience really hurt me. Little did I know that it is impossible to heal a narcissist. I didn’t even know what a narcissist was until after my traumatic experiences.

These narcissists constantly drained my energy, manipulated me in ways that I was completely blind to, and prevented me from reaching my full potential. My self-esteem was also extremely low in the past and I’m certain they could sense this. This was likely the biggest reason why I was targeted so much by these people. Hopefully this article will help others avoid falling into the same trap I did…5 times.

The Empath vs Narcissist Dynamics

The empath will view the narcissist with loving eyes, despite their obvious issues. They will purposely ignore their toxic behavior and sneaky games of manipulation, choosing to put on rose-colored spectacles instead. They will view the narcissist as someone they can heal, because that’s what empaths do, they heal people. But no…not in this case…

It is impossible to heal a narcissist. So please, don’t even waste your time.

The empath will provide the narcissist with their undivided attention, unconditional love, and understanding; all of which the narcissist lacked as a child. The narcissist will not be satisfied with just that, no no no, not enough. These narcissists want to take everything you have, and more. Their goal is to make you feel like you need them, but the reality of the situation is that they need you more than anything. In fact, they would be miserable without all the attention you give them.

Narcissists feel amazing when they are around empaths. I have personally been told this by narcissists themselves. They would say things like, ”I don’t know why I feel so good when I’m around you. I feel like I get an energy boost or something.” But I on the other hand would constantly feel drained and tired. If you notice this imbalance within the relationship then be careful. I assumed I was tired all the time because I was an introvert but the truth was far deeper than that. Narcissists are energy vampires and they will suck your energy up real fast if you aren’t careful.

The narcissist will fake their empathy and kindness toward you. They do this because they want to gain your trust. They will make it seem like they are genuinely interested in you and your problems but half the time they aren’t even listening. At the end of the day it is all about them and what they can get from you.

A narcissist is not capable of empathy. This is why they are narcissists.

They cannot fully hide their true colors, nor do they seek to do so. They will intentionally put you down to make themselves feel better but they will do so using sneaky word play and manipulation. If you call them out on this then they will tell you that you are just imagining things or that you are too insecure. The truth is that they are the ones who are insecure, but they will never admit this. The narcissist just wants to make your self-esteem as low as possible so they feel like they are in control. They want to make you dependent on them, whether you guys are in an actual relationship, or simply a friendship.

They will continue to play their little games of manipulation and then cover it up with kindness. The games they play will make you want to doubt your intuition, time and time again. The empath needs to cut ties from the narcissist before they truly do become dependent on them. However, this can be extremely tough depending on the length of the relationship.

Remember, the only way out of this situation is to cut ties and stand up for yourself. The longer you are around a narcissist the worse it is going to become.

Tips for Empaths when dealing with Narcissists

  • Realize your own self-worth.  You should never let another person tell you what you are worth. Look within.
  • Trust your intuition! Your intuition is there exactly for this type of situation. It can save you from a lot of hurt and grief in the future.
  • Surround yourself with quality/authentic people. People who make you feel good and help you grow.  You do not have to deal with unbalanced relationships in your life.
  • Be careful of staying around a narcissist for too long because you may end up developing narcissistic qualities yourself.
  • Stand up for yourself. Do not procrastinate and prolong the situation. Speak up and let your voice be heard!
  • Again, you cannot heal a narcissist so please don’t waste your time.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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11 Signs You Are Going Through A Spiritual Awakening

Going through a spiritual awakening can be quite the frightening experience. You may feel like your whole world has been flipped upside down, complete 360 double back flip with a twist. You may even feel like you are going insane.

Keep in mind that you are going to be okay, don’t freak out!

There are many others who live in the exact same world as you that are going through the exact same thing.

So just take a deep breath, relax, and stay positive. The unpleasant symptoms are only temporary. You will be back to your normal self in no time! Well…maybe not your normal self…even better than that, your true self.

You may need to take time away from the world when you are going through the awakening process. It can be hard to function like usual and alone time may be just the remedy you need to get back up to speed.

Here are 11 signs that you might be going through a spiritual awakening

Note: not everyone goes through every single one of these symptoms. However, generally you will go through these 11 signs as you begin to awaken into your true self.

  1. Synchronicity – You start to experience synchronicity – seeing repeating numbers such as 1111, 222, 333 on the norm. This could be anywhere – on your phone, receipts, clocks, etc.
  2. Change in Sleep Patterns – You experience waking up in the middle of the night on a regular basis. This could be at odd times such as 3:33am or 4:44am. You may also need more, or less sleep than usual to feel like your usual self.
  3. Hypersensitivity – You become unable to tolerate things like loud noises and strong smells. Emotionally, you may be a bit unstable. You are likely going to be on a emotional roller coaster. If you are an empath then you will feel the emotions of those around you more intensely.
  4. Change in Perception – Your perception of the world has changed dramatically and you begin seeing the world without a filter. Both the good and bad aspects of the world will become clearer as you gain more and more clarity.
  5. Change in Diet – The food you were eating prior to all of this just doesn’t do it for you anymore. The jack-in-the box you loved so much in the past starts to repulse you. You get stomach aches when you eat too much fatty/processed foods. You start craving healthier foods. Drugs give you a headache, like tobacco or caffeine.
  6. Feeling Good, Feeling Great! – You feel good for a reason you can’t exactly pinpoint. You feel an almost euphoric sensation throughout your entire being. You feel more peaceful and zen than you ever have before.
  7. Dark Night of the Soul – During the very beginning of your spiritual awakening process you may experience an extreme low. This will likely be just about the worst you have ever felt in your life. Everything that you thought couldn’t go wrong…goes wrong. However, keep in mind that this is only temporary.
  8. Intolerance  – You become intolerant towards superficiality and shallow conversations. People who are overly materialistic start to be a major turn off.
  9. Searching For a Purpose – Your curiosity and thirst for knowledge has heightened. You feel like you were meant to do something important with your life. You have a strong sense of urgency to find your true purpose in life.
  10. Freedom Has Arrived! –  You feel like your shackles have finally been torn off and you are free. Your whole body will feel a whole lot lighter.
  11. Seeking Meaning In Your Life – Suddenly, coming home from work and watching TV for 5 hours doesn’t seem so interesting any more. You crave deep conversations and need some real substance in your life.

Again, the negative symptoms are only temporary and everything is going to be okay. Eventually you will feel pure bliss as you become comfortable with yourself and start to accept what is happening to you.


Have you gone through the awakening process? 

Feel free to leave a comment below and share your experience 🙂