There are no spoilers in this post by the way…I think?
So I’ve been watching the Netflix show “13 Reasons Why” and it makes me feel so awkward. Like the show gets pretty real, it shows things that I think most people are afraid to discuss on the regular, especially parents. The communication issues between the high school students and their parents made me angry – I guess because I can relate to them too.
Growing up I never felt completely comfortable opening up to my parents about sensitive issues. In fact, I could sense that my parents felt awkward about it too, especially my dad, and that made it even worse. I know my mom would attempt to ask me questions about my personal life, but I never really told her any details on a “real” level. I guess by my high school years it was already too late. I almost never discussed girls, or sex, or depression or anything like that with my parents during those years. If I did then it was only because my mom kept asking questions, but even then I always kept it very brief.
I personally feel like parents need to make it very clear from a young age that it’s okay to discuss “taboo” issues such as these. They have to make it feel normal so that their child will open up to them from a young age. Then, when the kids are in high school and they go through all of the shit that the real world has to offer, they can safely confide in their parents without all of the awkwardness and miscommunication. For example, If the child is feeling depressed then they need to feel like they won’t be judged, or misunderstood from the people most close to them. If they can’t even get that from their own parents then that’s when things such as suicide or drug addiction become a real possibility.
Also, parents need to stop thinking that their kid is always right and perfect and the smartest person who ever lived. Like I’m guessing that’s just how it is when you have kids and you want to believe that your child is perfect. But no…that even further alienates the child from the parent. If you always say how perfect your child is then when they actually get into trouble, or if they make a big life mistake then there is no way they can come to you and tell you straight up. This happened so many times in the show that it made me feel sick.
This show is the realist shit ever by the way. Drugs, alcohol, sex, rape, relationships, social class, money, depression, bullying, this show does not hold back. And although I felt pretty awkward at times watching this show, I felt like I needed to keep going. The lessons to be learned, and the thoughts that are to be provoked from watching this show are priceless. Pretty much any age group can benefit a lot from watching this show in my opinion.
Oh and the personality types! The best part of any TV show for me. I loved that there was so much diversity in the types of people that were on the show. Sure, there was no visible INFJ in there but that’s because we are not really the norm. Is it just me or do INFJs get really absorbed into any tv show they watch? Sometimes I feel like what is happening to some of the characters is happening to me so I feel so distressed, angry and awkward. Must be the empathy?
Anyway, I am on the final episode now and I think I’ll finish it a little bit later tonight. This is gonna be so deep omg, I can already taste the awkwardness.