The Highly Sensitive Person: How to Cope in the Busy World of Today

Human beings are empathetic creatures by nature, we can all to at least some degree understand what another person is going through, even if it’s just a little bit. Some people can go as far as feeling what the other person feels. The highly sensitive individual is a special case. This is when the ability to feel becomes so intense that it can potentially become too much to handle.

A few things that can potentially be harmful for Highly Sensitive Individuals:

  • Too many sudden changes in the physical environment
  • Too much negative energy from the surrounding people
  • Loud noises, bright lights, and crowded places with many people

If the environment is simply too much for a highly sensitive person to handle then it can even manifest into physical ailments and sicknesses.

So what can these people do to cope with such a trait?

Being a highly sensitive individual in the world of today is not an easy task… but it is more than possible to cope. It does not need to be seen in a negative light either. The key is simply to understand yourself and your limits.

For adults it is a lot easier because you have freedom to live how you choose. If you don’t want to work in a busy environment filled with tons of people talking at the top of their lungs every second of the day then you don’t have to.

For children however, it is a whole different story because children cannot just do whatever they want. Highly sensitive children are at the mercy of their parent/guardian. They have to go to school and they are expected to deal with the same conditions that everyone else deals with. And they will not receive special treatment unless they have a disability that the school finds legitimate.

Public school for highly sensitive children can potentially be hell depending on the environment. These children cannot choose when they feel, they unconsciously absorb the emotions of the people around them, all the time. Their energy levels and their ability to focus can severely plummet if the environment does not suit the child. This is why public school can severely hamper a child’s ability to focus and succeed academically. A peaceful and organized environment is best suited for these individuals.

A few things that can happen when a Highly Sensitive Person feels overwhelmed:

  • Severe energy depletion
  • Anxiety and confusion
  • Inability to focus and brain fog

It is not easy being a highly sensitive person, child or adult, but I really feel for children who may have no idea what is going on inside of them. Even worse if they think that there something is wrong with themselves. I believe that homeschooling is a more than viable option for children who suffer in the public school setting. If you have a child who you suspect to be highly sensitive then I would highly recommend considering the option.


Extra comments:

I myself am a highly sensitive person with the INFJ personality type and still have issues regarding negative/crowded environments. As a child it 10 times worse because I had no idea what was going on and neither did my parents. It didn’t get very much easier as I got older either. In fact I think it was the worst in high school where the environment I was in was much too rowdy and loud for me to function. And I had no choice but to deal with it and tough it through.

I think this is why I feel so passionate about the subject. I know for sure if someday my child were to show signs of being highly sensitive then I would make sure that my child feels comfortable. If my child is complaining about school and is not performing well then I will consider home school or private school in a heartbeat.

I truly wonder what it would have been like if I had been given the option to be home schooled. I could have studied in a peaceful environment without having to worry all the time. I may have actually enjoyed school if I wasn’t forced to be around such negative/loud influences all the time when I was trying to learn. I mean, I guess I learned some valuable lessons by toughing it out through public school… but still, I feel like it shouldn’t have been as terrible as it was.

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May – the month of 5

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It’s finally may! After a very long April (For me at least).

The month of 5 is all about change. I mentioned a little bit about it in my last post about the month of 4. April was about getting all of that grueling work done and laying the foundation for things to come.

The hard work that was done in the month of 4 should start to manifest during the month of 5. If change is what you desire, you will finally begin to realize the possibility of such a thing. You should strive to embrace the idea that it is indeed possible to make positive changes in your life.

Worn out attitudes and habits are encouraged to be changed during this month. Your comfort zone should be broken, and your horizons should broaden. If you have been thinking about doing something like starting a new work out program, updating your resume, etc…then now is your opportunity.

This month will naturally get hectic.  You may have an inner desire for change stirring up inside of you. Strive to embrace that desire without getting too carried away. You will likely have a lot on your mind during this month, hopefully even innovative ideas to improve your life.

Remember that you should not do something that you will likely regret in the future. This is not the time to suddenly quit your job out of no where and make a living as a street dancer. It is however the time to realize the possibility of such a thing.

The 5 vibration is about curiosity, freedom, and change.

Here are few things that you may want to do during the month of 5:

Research

  •  New ideas and life changing decisions should be thoroughly researched during this month. Do not take a sudden leap that you may end up regretting next month. Research, think, and plan ahead to ensure that your plans/projects go smoothly.

Live life

  • Freedom is the name of the game. Do exactly what you want for a change and take care of yourself. Whatever it is that makes you happy. If you are into getting your nails done, go for it! Feel like going on an adventure? Give it a try!

Go get it!

  • This is a month that will be filled with opportunities that can potentially be life changing. Be on the look out and go get it when you see it! You may see some fresh faces in your life, or maybe even potential business connections. This is a time to branch out and seek out opportunities that can improve your life.

My challenge to you all during the month of May is to embrace the idea that positive changes in your life are possible, and to embrace freedom(whatever that may mean to you).

“13 Reasons Why” and the awkwardness between parent and child

There are no spoilers in this post by the way…I think?

So I’ve been watching the Netflix show “13 Reasons Why” and it makes me feel so awkward. Like the show gets pretty real, it shows things that I think most people are afraid to discuss on the regular, especially parents. The communication issues between the high school students and their parents made me angry – I guess because I can relate to them too.

Growing up I never felt completely comfortable opening up to my parents about sensitive issues. In fact, I could sense that my parents felt awkward about it too, especially my dad, and that made it even worse. I know my mom would attempt to ask me questions about my personal life, but I never really told her any details on a “real” level. I guess by my high school years it was already too late. I almost never discussed girls, or sex, or depression or anything like that with my parents during those years. If I did then it was only because my mom kept asking questions, but even then I always kept it very brief.

I personally feel like parents need to make it very clear from a young age that it’s okay to discuss “taboo” issues such as these. They have to make it feel normal so that their child will open up to them from a young age. Then, when the kids are in high school and they go through all of the shit that the real world has to offer, they can safely confide in their parents without all of the awkwardness and miscommunication. For example, If the child is feeling depressed then they need to feel like they won’t be judged, or misunderstood from the people most close to them. If they can’t even get that from their own parents then that’s when things such as suicide or drug addiction become a real possibility.

Also, parents need to stop thinking that their kid is always right and perfect and the smartest person who ever lived. Like I’m guessing that’s just how it is when you have kids and you want to believe that your child is perfect. But no…that even further alienates the child from the parent. If you always say how perfect your child is then when they actually get into trouble, or if they make a big life mistake then there is no way they can come to you and tell you straight up. This happened so many times in the show that it made me feel sick.

This show is the realist shit ever by the way. Drugs, alcohol, sex, rape, relationships, social class, money, depression, bullying, this show does not hold back. And although I felt pretty awkward at times watching this show, I felt like I needed to keep going.  The lessons to be learned, and the thoughts that are to be provoked from watching this show are priceless. Pretty much any age group can benefit a lot from watching this show in my opinion.

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Oh and the personality types! The best part of any TV show for me. I loved that there was so much diversity in the types of people that were on the show. Sure, there was no visible INFJ in there but that’s because we are not really the norm. Is it just me or do INFJs get really absorbed into any tv show they watch? Sometimes I feel like what is happening to some of the characters is happening to me so I feel so distressed, angry and awkward. Must be the empathy?

Anyway, I am on the final episode now and I think I’ll finish it a little bit later tonight. This is gonna be so deep omg, I can already taste the awkwardness.

 

3 Of The Richest Men In The World – The Owners Of Microsoft, Amazon, and Facebook All Share A Strange Connection To Numerology In 2017?

#1 Bill Gates

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William Henry Gates III – October 28, 1955 (age 61)

Bill Gates – Co founder of Microsoft. He is worth $86 billion dollars, making him the richest man in the world currently in 2017.

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His life destiny number is 8 and his soul number is 8. He is a Scorpio, the 8th Zodiac…

HIS THIRD CHALLENGE NUMBER IS 8 – this lasts from age 36 to age 45 during the same time frame as your third pinnacle.

He launched Microsoft in 1985, at age 30. Then he started raking in the profits which eventually lead him to be become the richest man in the world.

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#2 Mark Zuckerberg

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Mark Elliot Zuckerberg – May 14, 1984 (age 32)

Worth $56 billion dollars, The owner of Facebook – Mark Zuckerberg is the 5th richest man in the world.

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His life path number is 5. He is the 5th richest man in the world. Born on May 14th. May is month number 5 and 1 + 4  = 5. He is age 32 right now, 3 + 2 = 5. He is a Taurus.

HIS FIRST AND SECOND CYCLES ARE BOTH 5. BOTH SECOND AND FOURTH CHALLENGE NUMBERS ARE 8.

SECOND CHALLENGE

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His wife is Priscilla Chan. Her Second Challenge number is 8 too. Her life destiny number is also 8. It seems the meeting of the two was a match made in heaven. Fate to say the least.

#3 Jeff Bezos

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The founder of Amazon, worth $72.8 billion dollars, Jeff Bezos is currently the 3rd richest man in the world.

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Jeffrey Preston Jorgensen – January 12, 1964 (age 53).

He is a Capricorn. Born in the month of 1. Both his life destiny and soul number are 1.

3rd richest man, Age 53 – 5 + 3 = 8.  Born on the 12th,  1 + 2 = 3. He founded Amazon in 1994 when he was 30.

HIS LUCKY NUMBER IS 3.

HIS SECOND CHALLENGE NUMBER IS 8. HIS SECOND CYCLE IS 3 – lasts from age 29 to 56.

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SECOND CHALLENGE

SECOND CYCLE

So Illuminati or nah? This is a little scary…don’t kill me plz


References

https://www.forbes.com/billionaires/#7cdbcbfc251c

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mark_Zuckerberg

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Priscilla_Chan_(philanthropist)

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bill_Gates

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jeff_Bezos


If you would like to do your own analysis then you can use this tool at cafeastrology.

This is a really good book on Numerology that I read recently. For anyone who is curious and wants to dip their toes in all of this stuff then I highly recommend.

1 month blogging anniversary!

So its officially been 31 days since I made my very first blog post! My first post was made on March 5th – The adventure begins

Also pretty cool how my follower count has all of these onesss 11111’s. I like just noticed, and that’s how I was inspired to make this post lol

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It has only been 1 month but I honestly feel like I’ve been doing this for way longer. It just feels so natural to me, I don’t need to force myself or anything. I have not made any money at all, and yet I feel so satisfied. I truly feel like I’m in the right place at the right time.

I always had poor self-esteem when it came to communicating with other people, especially verbally. Anything I would say would come out wrong, or I would speak too fast or just not make sense at all. This was very prevalent as a child, I would get so excited over things no one cared about, then I would talk and talk and talk till your ears fell off.

Writing/blogging gives me time to sort out my thoughts, and enables me to communicate clearly and effectively. Writing feels like a necessity to me now, even if I didn’t write in a blog, I would still write for myself just for the relief it provides me. It’s almost therapeutic for me in a way.

I also absolutely love making connections with my readers. And for some reason it makes me especially happy if they are from a foreign country or some place I never heard of. I never dreamed I would be able to share my thoughts and connect with people from all over the world so easily.

 

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Thank you so much to all who follow me/read my posts. I truly appreciate the support. Without the positive feedback that I’ve received from others, I do not think I would have the confidence to continue.