Dealing with Narcissists as an Empath

Empath vs Narcissist 

—the never ending battle

Every empath is going to encounter a narcissist in their lifetime, there is really no avoiding it. This is because an empath is exactly the type of person they love to prey on the most. Sadly, empaths who lack knowledge/experience quite easily fall victim. I can attest because I have fallen victim to these people many times. 5 times to be exact. 2 of those times I was actually afraid my life was in danger. Thank god I have my intuition though because I was able to sense, and avert myself from the danger moments before anything serious happened. Not going to go too far into detail but I can say for sure that I have learned my lesson. A lot of this happened quite recently too and I am still recovering from the trauma.

Each time, I was aware of their toxic behavior (for the most part) but I would associate with them anyway. I thought that maybe deep down inside they weren’t that bad after all. And I thought that maybe I could even change their behavior by showing them kindness and accepting them wholeheartedly. This is where my lack of knowledge/experience really hurt me. Little did I know that it is impossible to heal a narcissist. I didn’t even know what a narcissist was until after my traumatic experiences.

These narcissists constantly drained my energy, manipulated me in ways that I was completely blind to, and prevented me from reaching my full potential. My self-esteem was also extremely low in the past and I’m certain they could sense this. This was likely the biggest reason why I was targeted so much by these people. Hopefully this article will help others avoid falling into the same trap I did…5 times.

The Empath vs Narcissist Dynamics

The empath will view the narcissist with loving eyes, despite their obvious issues. They will purposely ignore their toxic behavior and sneaky games of manipulation, choosing to put on rose-colored spectacles instead. They will view the narcissist as someone they can heal, because that’s what empaths do, they heal people. But no…not in this case…

It is impossible to heal a narcissist. So please, don’t even waste your time.

The empath will provide the narcissist with their undivided attention, unconditional love, and understanding; all of which the narcissist lacked as a child. The narcissist will not be satisfied with just that, no no no, not enough. These narcissists want to take everything you have, and more. Their goal is to make you feel like you need them, but the reality of the situation is that they need you more than anything. In fact, they would be miserable without all the attention you give them.

Narcissists feel amazing when they are around empaths. I have personally been told this by narcissists themselves. They would say things like, ”I don’t know why I feel so good when I’m around you. I feel like I get an energy boost or something.” But I on the other hand would constantly feel drained and tired. If you notice this imbalance within the relationship then be careful. I assumed I was tired all the time because I was an introvert but the truth was far deeper than that. Narcissists are energy vampires and they will suck your energy up real fast if you aren’t careful.

The narcissist will fake their empathy and kindness toward you. They do this because they want to gain your trust. They will make it seem like they are genuinely interested in you and your problems but half the time they aren’t even listening. At the end of the day it is all about them and what they can get from you.

A narcissist is not capable of empathy. This is why they are narcissists.

They cannot fully hide their true colors, nor do they seek to do so. They will intentionally put you down to make themselves feel better but they will do so using sneaky word play and manipulation. If you call them out on this then they will tell you that you are just imagining things or that you are too insecure. The truth is that they are the ones who are insecure, but they will never admit this. The narcissist just wants to make your self-esteem as low as possible so they feel like they are in control. They want to make you dependent on them, whether you guys are in an actual relationship, or simply a friendship.

They will continue to play their little games of manipulation and then cover it up with kindness. The games they play will make you want to doubt your intuition, time and time again. The empath needs to cut ties from the narcissist before they truly do become dependent on them. However, this can be extremely tough depending on the length of the relationship.

Remember, the only way out of this situation is to cut ties and stand up for yourself. The longer you are around a narcissist the worse it is going to become.

Tips for Empaths when dealing with Narcissists

  • Realize your own self-worth.  You should never let another person tell you what you are worth. Look within.
  • Trust your intuition! Your intuition is there exactly for this type of situation. It can save you from a lot of hurt and grief in the future.
  • Surround yourself with quality/authentic people. People who make you feel good and help you grow.  You do not have to deal with unbalanced relationships in your life.
  • Be careful of staying around a narcissist for too long because you may end up developing narcissistic qualities yourself.
  • Stand up for yourself. Do not procrastinate and prolong the situation. Speak up and let your voice be heard!
  • Again, you cannot heal a narcissist so please don’t waste your time.











6 Signs Signifying The Dark Night of the Soul: This is Not Your Average Case of Depression

As seekers of spiritual knowledge, many of us will go through a period in our lives called the ”Dark Night of the Soul.”

If you are experiencing the Dark Night of the Soul as you read this article, keep in mind that this is all for a purpose. It is all for the sake of reaching the next level in your spiritual journey.

The Dark Night of the Soul is not your average case of depression. It is an extreme low point in our lives where we suffer mentally, spiritually, and physical. During the experience you will feel a sense of hopelessness and despair as you seem to lose all purpose in living. Your perception of reality will be severely distorted, and the way you view life will be abnormally negative.

As painful as the experience may be, you should think of the Dark Night of the Soul as a beautiful experience. A sacred ritual with the purpose of taking you to the next level in your spiritual journey.

The Dark Night of the Soul very often signifies the beginning stages of a spiritual awakening.

6 Signs Signifying the Dark Night of the Soul:

1) Spiritual depression – you begin to doubt everything you thought you knew about your spiritual beliefs. For very spiritual people this will be the toughest part of the experience. The world will appear as if it is one big lie. You may doubt your reason for existing and lose all meaning in your life.

2) Extremely stressful situations –  everything you thought couldn’t go wrong…goes wrong. For example, you may go through severe financial hardship – being unable to pay your bills, getting laid off from your job, an eviction notice from your landlord comes out of no where. Basically, the universe just bombards you with the most stressful life situations all at once.

3) Rapid change in your life – things begin to change in your life at such a dramatic pace that it is just overwhelming. You feel like you cannot keep up and are being swept away by the pace of the world.

4) You feel lost and alone – you feel as if no one can understand what you’re going through. And if no one around you shares your spiritual beliefs then you will feel more alone than ever.

5) Psychically and mentally drained – you experience feeling lethargic, sleeping all the time, getting sick too easily. You may feel a severe lack of energy and have trouble performing the basic duties that are necessary to live your life.

6) Depression – you don’t find much joy in the things that used to give you pleasure in the past. You have trouble getting out of bed, socializing with friends, etc. Like I mentioned before, this is not your average case of depression. However, you will experience normal depression symptoms on top of everything else.

My advice to you if you are going through the Dark Night of the Soul as we speak…just surrender to it all. Realize what you’re going through and accept it. Accept the fact that this period in your life is all for a reason. It is all necessary, and you WILL get past this.

The universe is not making you suffer so much without a reason. This is just a step in the awakening process. It is all for the sake of killing your old self so that you can emerge a new man. As cliche as it sounds, “Only by seeing the dark, will you be able to see the light.”

As you finally come out of the Dark Night you will feel a sense of relief that is almost laughable. Your perception of the world will be clearer than ever. Soon enough you will be able to look back at this experience and laugh at the whole thing.

Be grateful that you went through such a process. By experiencing such a dark period in your life now, the hardship you experience in the future will be nothing compared to this.




11 Signs You Are Going Through A Spiritual Awakening

Going through a spiritual awakening can be quite the frightening experience. You may feel like your whole world has been flipped upside down, complete 360 double back flip with a twist. You may even feel like you are going insane.

Keep in mind that you are going to be okay, don’t freak out!

There are many others who live in the exact same world as you that are going through the exact same thing.

So just take a deep breath, relax, and stay positive. The unpleasant symptoms are only temporary. You will be back to your normal self in no time! Well…maybe not your normal self…even better than that, your true self.

You may need to take time away from the world when you are going through the awakening process. It can be hard to function like usual and alone time may be just the remedy you need to get back up to speed.

Here are 11 signs that you might be going through a spiritual awakening

Note: not everyone goes through every single one of these symptoms. However, generally you will go through these 11 signs as you begin to awaken into your true self.

  1. Synchronicity – You start to experience synchronicity – seeing repeating numbers such as 1111, 222, 333 on the norm. This could be anywhere – on your phone, receipts, clocks, etc.
  2. Change in Sleep Patterns – You experience waking up in the middle of the night on a regular basis. This could be at odd times such as 3:33am or 4:44am. You may also need more, or less sleep than usual to feel like your usual self.
  3. Hypersensitivity – You become unable to tolerate things like loud noises and strong smells. Emotionally, you may be a bit unstable. You are likely going to be on a emotional roller coaster. If you are an empath then you will feel the emotions of those around you more intensely.
  4. Change in Perception – Your perception of the world has changed dramatically and you begin seeing the world without a filter. Both the good and bad aspects of the world will become clearer as you gain more and more clarity.
  5. Change in Diet – The food you were eating prior to all of this just doesn’t do it for you anymore. The jack-in-the box you loved so much in the past starts to repulse you. You get stomach aches when you eat too much fatty/processed foods. You start craving healthier foods. Drugs give you a headache, like tobacco or caffeine.
  6. Feeling Good, Feeling Great! – You feel good for a reason you can’t exactly pinpoint. You feel an almost euphoric sensation throughout your entire being. You feel more peaceful and zen than you ever have before.
  7. Dark Night of the Soul – During the very beginning of your spiritual awakening process you may experience an extreme low. This will likely be just about the worst you have ever felt in your life. Everything that you thought couldn’t go wrong…goes wrong. However, keep in mind that this is only temporary.
  8. Intolerance  – You become intolerant towards superficiality and shallow conversations. People who are overly materialistic start to be a major turn off.
  9. Searching For a Purpose – Your curiosity and thirst for knowledge has heightened. You feel like you were meant to do something important with your life. You have a strong sense of urgency to find your true purpose in life.
  10. Freedom Has Arrived! –  You feel like your shackles have finally been torn off and you are free. Your whole body will feel a whole lot lighter.
  11. Seeking Meaning In Your Life – Suddenly, coming home from work and watching TV for 5 hours doesn’t seem so interesting any more. You crave deep conversations and need some real substance in your life.

Again, the negative symptoms are only temporary and everything is going to be okay. Eventually you will feel pure bliss as you become comfortable with yourself and start to accept what is happening to you.

Have you gone through the awakening process? 

Feel free to leave a comment below and share your experience 🙂

11:11 Do You See Repeating Numbers? Are You Experiencing Synchronicity? 2:22 3:33

Have you been seeing repeating numbers such as 1111, 222, or 333 on the norm?

Have you been experiencing a series of strange occurrences that seem too timely to be mere coincidences?

Well, you may have been receiving signs from the universe without even knowing it!


The term ‘synchronicity’ was created by Carl Jung, the famous Swiss psychologist who founded analytical psychology. These ‘strange occurrences’ are likely not so strange at all. It is just the universe trying to communicate with you the only way it knows how.

“Synchronicity is an ever present reality for those who have eyes to see.” -Carl Jung

If you have been experiencing synchronicity then it means that the universe is trying to tell you something…something important. Likely, it is the case that the universe is trying to get you back on track with your true purpose, whatever that may be. Or, it could be the universe trying to tell you that you are already on the right track and that you should keep moving forward.

If you really think you have been experiencing synchronicity then I advise you to trust your intuition. The only way to truly understand these messages from the universe is to understand the language. The universe’s favorite language is in the form of numbers. It would be wise to brush up on your Numerology in order to fully understand what the universe is trying to tell you.

Examples of synchronicity:

  1. Carl Jung’s example: One day, Jung was treating a patient who spoke about a dream she had the night before. In the dream she spoke of a golden scarab. The next day, Jung heard a ‘thump’ on his window. He opened the window and what do you know! There was a golden scarab. He brought the scarab to her the next day and she began to heal.
  2.  The most common experience: You wake up in the morning, look at your phone, and you see that the time is 11:11. You don’t think much of it at first, but the same thing keeps occurring morning after morning. You see the same thing 3 days in a row. At this point it starts to become creepy and that’s when you start googling the meaning of 1111.
  3. You may see numbers everywhere you go. You could be driving and see 3 cars with licence plate numbers containing 333. Then right at that moment you receive a text from your friend at 3:33 pm. You notice these occurrences and start to get a strange feeling inside. Don’t ignore this feeling, seek knowledge!

The repeating numbers and their meanings

1111 – This is an angel number. 11 is a master number signifying a heightened sense of intuition. The universe is trying to get your attention. If you are seeing this on the norm, it is likely a sign of a spiritual awakening.

222 – Dreams are becoming a reality. If you find yourself seeing this number on the norm, you should take control over your thoughts. Your thoughts are being manifested into the real world. 22 is a master number associated with the master builder.

333 – 33 is a master number. It is associated with master teachers, or ascended masters (great spiritual teachers who roamed the earth long ago) such as Jesus. It means that they are close to you now and wish to assist you and protect you.

555 – The number 5 signifies change. If you regularly see 555 then big changes are coming into your life. Brace yourself!

Keep in mind that synchronicity is not always in the form of repeating numbers.

For example, you may look at your phone and see 4:55, or 5:44. Let’s say you see these numbers very often and for 5 days in a row. If that’s the case then it is likely another sign from the universe.

4:55 = The number 4 in Numerology is associated with hard work. The number 5 is associated with change.

Let’s say you have been having money issues on your mind recently but you have been slacking off. This could be a message from the universe trying to get you back on track, telling you to stop being so damn lazy! Work and things will change!

Again, if you truly want to understand what the universe is trying to tell you then you need to learn the language. Learning what the numbers mean through Numerology is the key.

Personally, I have been experiencing synchronicity for a while now. I’m not sure for how long but I only began to notice as soon as I was introduced to Numerology.

So many experiences have happened to me that it’s not even funny anymore.

Waking up and seeing 11:11 over and over.

Sleeping soundly in the middle of the night and then suddenly awakening, coupled with a strange feeling inside. Then looking at my phone and seeing that it is 3:33am and my phone is charged to 33%.

I could really go on and on…

Have you been experiencing synchronicity?

Leave a comment below and share your experience.


So I met this girl (5.5)

Okay, I don’t doubt any of this anymore.

This girl is my twin flame. I have a fucking twin flame!

Before all of this I was so miserable. I didn’t even want to look at reality I was that miserable. My anxiety issues were absolutely unbearable and nothing would fix them. I was depressed, lost, and nothing interested me. I went to the doctor and got anti-depressants but even that didn’t do much. I would smoke weed everyday because I hated reality that much. My financial situation was absolutely terrible, I had student loans to worry about, I ran up credit card bills without even thinking, I was broke af, it was bad. And it is still really really bad.

Before all of this I was going to school for something that I had no interest in. My future looked so unappealing to me but that was the only way I could survive in this world I thought. Work a 9 to 5 until the day I die just to get money. I don’t want to work for money, I want to do what I love. I need freedom.

Everything changed as soon as this girl entered my life, I was granted freedom. I started seeing a future that was bright. My anxiety started to go down. I started to actually care about the world. I began to figure out ways to fix my financial situation. I started to express myself! I never expressed myself before all of this. Expressing myself feels good and I’m going to do it a whole lot more.

A lot of my “friends” and even my older brothers know about this blog and that made me so self-conscious. They don’t believe this stuff, no one I know believes any of this stuff and it made me want to censor everything I said because I knew they would be able to read it. No more. I don’t care anymore. I am going to speak my mind.

I found the truth. All of this shit is true. This girl, my twin flame, showed me the truth.

Today the real Austin aka Aphrolina aka Aphrosodite is born.